How to approach a woman

To most men, knowing how to approach a woman seems to be something that only really talented or really brave men can pull off without making themselves look foolish. Have you ever thought that if you just knew how to approach women that the rest would fall into place? If so, you’re most likely frustrated if you haven’t yet mastered the art of picking up a woman you don’t know. Well, if this is your experience, then you’ll be happy to learn these simple tips on how to pick up a woman…

First, Where to Meet Women?

The key to knowing how to meet women is figuring out where to meet them. You’ve probably already figured out that there are places where it is easier to meet women. For example, it’s not usually a good idea approaching a woman in the gym; grocery stores, banks or any other place where they’re trying to take care of business and don’t have time to talk aren’t ideal either.

Sure, if you see a woman you really want to get to know and you know you’ll never get another opportunity, it’s better to try than do nothing at all. However, you can increase your chances of getting a good response if you frequent places where women just hang out and relax and where they are open to meeting somebody: dog parks, coffee shops, book stores, special interest clubs…

Second, the Walk Away Approach

Many men who think they know how to pick up a woman go right from “hello” to trying to get her to give them a phone number — all within the first five minutes of talking to her. The problem with this is that you wind up looking needy and it sends out messages of your interest without giving you the opportunity to create your social value. Better to make a brief approach or comment, get her to respond, and then walk away or resume your own business.

This accomplishes two goals: first, it demonstrates to her that you’re not needy and gets her thinking about whether or not you’re interested in her… and once you’ve made her curious it is easy to convert that into interest. The other thing that it accomplishes is that is offers you the ability to test how she responds to you so you know whether or not you’re even interested. Once you’ve approached and walked away, it will be that much easier to return and engage her in conversation again.

Third, the Observational Approach

If you’re the kind of guy who thinks that the secret to picking up a woman is by having a solid routine memorized even before you talk to her, you have another thing coming. The approaches that work the best are the ones that are the most natural. This means that you have to master the art of using observational conversation starters to get people’s attention.

This is much easier than it sounds. The problem is that most men don’t take the time to practice this, then they see the girl of their dreams and they are suddenly reduced to talking like a monosyllabic cavemen. You’ll never master the art of approaching women if you only test your skills in this type of pressure situation.

Instead, try out your observational conversation starters with every person you come across: other guys, girls you’re not interested in, the elderly, fat dudes you’d normally avoid conversation with, etc. This way, when you finally see a woman you’re interested in, you will have honed your skills at making conversation and you’ll be on top of your game.

Ever hear the saying: “The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining”? Keep in mind that knowing how to approach a woman is not an incredible feat performed by a magician, where you need to summon your spirit guide. As with anything else in life, you have to practice consistently, and these three steps will help you transform into a master.