Would you like to know what to say to that special lady you are attracted to? What if you could master the art of approaching women and attracting them to you? What if you could use this talent to have your choice of quality women instead of settling for whatever you can get? If your answer is that you want to be the man of many viable options when it comes to women, you probably want to look into the advice of the dating experts about how to approach a woman and engage her…

First, Are You Doing This Wrong?

If you feel like you could benefit from some advice on how to talk to a woman, it’s likely because you’re committing the common error of getting into “approaching mode.” What’s that? It means that every time you see a woman you’re attracted to, your mind and body do an immediate 180. You become nervous, feel stress, you have a hard time putting your words together, you begin to worry if she will decline your offer…

Is this a familiar story? If it is, you probably think that all men have the same experience … even the ones who know how to speak to women. But that is not true. Men who communicate with women in the right way do it quite naturally. They talk to a woman that interests them just like they would talk to anyone else. Put another way — they avoid the additional fear and anxiety and other emotional baggage other men commonly experience.

Why does this happen and how can you change it?

Swim Against the Tide — How to talk to a woman isn’t everyday knowledge, so generally men go about it in entirely the wrong way. They tell her they like how she looks, they ask her name, then they immediately try to steer the conversation to making a date or at least getting her phone number. To put it another way, most men mistakenly telegraph interest right off the bat; this puts the woman one step above him.

Then they act as if they were trying to close a deal with a business associate. They try to close the deal without allowing any mystery, playfulness, or romance to build up. To put it another way, they have no idea how to speak to women because they think like men. Men think only about outcomes and try to seal the deal right away.

Women, however, communicate indirectly and like their interactions with men to be natural and to have a sense of mystery and intrigue. Men, of course, hate this. They’d like women to be direct about what they are looking for… this explains why most men have no clue about how to talk to a woman or how to attract women generally.

If you want to see something different happen, then you have to try a new approach…

Master the Art of Indirect Communication — Were you aware that the secret to knowing how to talk to a woman is the ability to transmit mixed signals to create an aura of curiosity, mystery and intrigue? This means you act in a manner that indicates disinterest while giving them little signs that say you are actually quite interested. For example, when you are talking you might try light touches or playful little jabs to signal you might be interested in her… but which leave room for some mystery and intrigue.

Master this and you will have mastered the art of indirect communication, something women find alluring. Men may find these things frustrating, but they are necessary when speaking to women.